How To Avoid Confrontations At Parties

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Parties provide us with the perfect chance to have a good time, meet new people and catch up with old friends. However, they can also potentially provide the perfect opportunity for confrontations.

Whether it is a confrontation with somebody new that you meet, or a confrontation regarding an unresolved past issue with an old friend; when large groups of people gather together, there is always the possibility for an argument to begin. This is especially the case if alcohol is entered into the mix. The question is how do you avoid confrontation at a party?

Avoiding Confrontation When It Is Expected

It is much easier to avoid confrontation when you know that it is likely to occur. Parties involving family members with different generations for example often lead to confrontation. Similarly, parties where you will run into an ex partner or an old friend you had a disagreement with will also likely end in a confrontation. For these types of parties the confrontation is expected and therefore much easier to control.

Rule Number One – Be Prepared

The best way to avoid a confrontation is to be prepared for one. Now some critics could argue that going into a party expecting a confrontation will likely cause one and not avoid it. However, it all depends upon how you go about it.

Being prepared simply means expecting a confrontation and having a pre meditated get out plan before you arrive. Of course this only works if you know that a confrontation is likely; such as if you are going to be bumping into somebody you have argued with who you haven’t talked to in a long time. Family gatherings are also well known to cause arguments and confrontations. So being prepared is definitely a good thing!

Rule Number Two – Think About Potential Issues

The best way to be prepared is to know what issues are likely to crop up. If you are attending a family gathering, what are the main issues likely to cause a confrontation? Does a family member not approve of your job? Did they do something to upset you? Or perhaps you are attending a party and your ex will be there with their new partner? There will obviously be tension there and the potential for old issues to be brought up.

Once you have established what the issues are likely to be, it is then that you should think about your possible responses. Think of ways in which you can acknowledge the issues, yet prevent them from getting out of hand. If you know that a family member has a problem with your job and it comes up every single time that you see them, accept it but also put it into perspective. Instead of allowing the person’s opinion to ruin your evening, just brush it off. You know what they think, it isn’t anything new and their comments at the party certainly won’t make you quit your job. So let them have their say and just carry on with your evening. But just how do you brush off confrontation?

Rule Number Three – Let the Issue Go or Avoid Confrontation

What you need to remember is that something will only affect you if you let it bother you. If you learn to let go of the issue, even if it is brought up numerous times at the party, it will not bother you.

If your ex is attending the same party as you and they are taking their new partner, just accept it. It might not be easy, but by ignoring them and by accepting that they are together and that getting into a confrontation will only ruin your evening, it allows you to let it go. Enlist the help of friends. They will be able to take your mind off it and keep you away from possible confrontation if needed. After all, accepting the issue is not always easy, especially if it is a recent break up or if the argument is still fresh in your mind. So if the issue cannot be ignored the only solution is to avoid confrontation. Keep yourself away from the person you are likely to have an argument with. Again enlist the help of friends and family if you can.

Avoiding Confrontation When It Is Not Expected

Avoiding confrontation is not always easy if it is unexpected. Many times people find themselves confronted by complete strangers. Avoiding this type of confrontation can often seem to be impossible, but dealing with it quickly and preventing it from becoming worse isn’t. Example – Dealing with Accusations

Accusations are a top confrontation starter amongst strangers at a party. It could be a jealous girlfriend accusing you of trying to steal her boyfriend, or it could be another person accusing you of looking at them in an unfriendly way. Unfortunately, there are some people who attend parties with the main intention of starting a confrontation. The trick is, knowing how to deal with it.

The best thing that you can do is to take a deep breath and think before you say anything. Avoid the temptation to make a witty comment or to lose your cool. If possible, simply walk away or apologise and state that you did not mean to cause offence or assure them that they must have got the wrong end of the stick. Even if you are in the right, sometimes it is best to just apologise and walk away. If this isn’t an option, be firm that you did not do what you are accused of but say that you are not willing to get into a confrontation with them. Sometimes you cannot avoid confrontation if the other person is dead set on causing trouble. However, you can control how you behave and by staying calm and trying to do the right thing, it is the best way to avoid a problem.

Overall avoiding confrontation is easy if you are expecting it. However, it isn’t always something that can be controlled. The best tips to avoid confrontation are to think before you speak, avoid bringing up a topic that could lead to confrontation and be prepared for any issues that you do know will cause an argument. If you cannot let go of an issue then always try your best to avoid the person that you have an issue with.